Habitual Line Steppers

Let's get to it...

Envelope pusher, tip toe(r) or my favorite the whimsical boundary eraser. Those that reside in these categories all have a reoccurring pattern - habitual line stepping! It always puzzles me when after single encounters and/or minimal interactions one can have the audacity to think it's OK to do or say certain things. Note the following (few) examples of many:

Exhibit A: We are all "Friends" - Actually we're NOT...

Ahh the classic case of blurred vision. Let me be the first to say to those that don't already know....just because you come in contact with someone one time or were introduced to someone casually or a person you met is a friend of a friend that does NOT make them your friend too. I've seen it happen a million times you know how it goes. Friend introduces one person to the other then the next thing you know a week later you are getting a Facebook request from a person that you don't even remember. Female trait - nah! This also rings true with dudes - once upon a time one of my guy friends met one of my home girls once in his life for less than 10 minutes next thing we know he has searched for her on my Facebook page and found her...You have a new friend request - DENIED! Side Note - trying to be sneaky is severe line stepping homie!

 

Exhibit B: I want to be one of the "cool kids"

The greatest form of flattery is imitation says the wise man but when it comes to talking, walking and acting like someone to make yourself feel included it is truly a bit corny. You know how you and your friends have inside jokes, non verbal ques and of course phrases that you utilize within your group and then one day an onlooker wants to be in the mix so they begin to mirror you only to do it in all the wrong ways. So much so that they begin to somewhat disgust you after constantly talking about irrelevant items, they reach way too far in every category and last but not least the overbearing divulging of too much information - so unsexy! The most amzing part of it all is that they manage to do this all while playing the dumb card the entire time. Coincidence - I think not.

Line steppers really seek to be understood in a world of their own. They strive to be in the circle, any circle and often become the laughter of the party instead of the life of the party. My advice - play it cool, know your role and in due time you may be invited in the circle. Until then, create your own circle and be fabulous while doing so! That is all...